Pink handmade paper and handmade ornament |
Ahem,
it's almost upon us. February Fourteenth. Welcomed or reviled,
shunned or embraced, this ancient holiday is rarely completely
overlooked. (Woe to the young male pursuant if it is). How do you
observe this upcoming, heart-adorned holiday? It probably depends on
your age, your experience and your pocketbook.
Very
few facts are known about Valentinus, the
martyred saint (or saints) from the second (or third) century in
Rome, whose name adorns this fractious holiday.
Nonetheless, 18th
Century Englishmen took this minor Christian holiday as excuse to
send tokens of endearment, usually in the form of confections and
flowers; to their beloved, or hope-to-be beloveds. Those supposedly
staid and reserved Englishmen were given to ardent and sometimes
flowery declarations of devotion. Those expressions of highly
idealized romantic love influence many of our traditional customs of buying
flowers, giving chocolates and sending mushy Valentine cards.
I
enjoy all those traditions, but since Englishmen made
up customs to suit their purposes, so can any of us, honoring the
spirit of love and affection. Here are three I have observed and
enjoyed with others.
Craft
day
4th grader heart made of clay |
Since
kindergarten forward, people like to make and decorate hearts. The
handmade lingers long with us, so whip out the paper and doilies, or
fabric and lace, or clay and glaze, and make yourself some hearts to
give to someone, anyone you love.
Day-After-Party
Don't
want to buy in to the commercialism? Feeling just a tad resentful
about all this emphasis on romance?
Plan
a day or two after-party. Buy all those chocolates the day after at
half-off. Choose a theme decidedly not romantic, and invite someone
you haven't seen lately. Hey, invite someone you barely know, or your
neighbor you've been meaning to visit. One woman I know has a
several years' running day-after-party. She's created her own
tradition.
Acts
of random, unexpected kindness
wrapped glass ornament with wire & beads |
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