Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Checklist Fall Prevention: 5 Ways to Stay Safe Inside Your Home.

"Home is where the heart isbut home is also where, according to Health.com 8 million Americans lose their balance and fall. Senior adults are particularly at risk because they may have impaired vision, and a variety of musculoskeletal issues, like bone loss and osteoporosis. No matter your age, nothing interrupts your holiday celebration like a run to the emergency room.

This month, before the snow and ice mean precautions outside, use this checklist to safeguard against falls inside your home.

Check the RX label.
Do your medicines list dizziness as a side effect? Many medicine interactions also may cause lightheadedness. Read the labels, use a drug interaction website and talk to your doctor and pharmacist when you begin another medication. 


Light the stairs.
Good lighting in the home is essential for safe movement but it is especially important at the top and bottom of stairs, where it is easy to miss a step. Consider night-lights or small wall units to light up the dark side of the staircase.

Wear the rubber-soled slipper.
Or socks, or shoes. Bare feet have good traction, but for the cold-feet among us, wear warmth with slip-resistant soles.

Lose the area rugs.
Yes, they are pretty and warm up the home, but the edges tend to curl up and trip us up. If you must have them, make sure they are backed with skid resistant backing. 

Clear the clutter.
In the holiday season we may pile the wrapping, boxes, purchases on the stairs or on the floor; which can quickly mean in the way of walking. Think of the comedic banana peel, only it isn't funny when you are one upended.

We at Always Best Care sincerely wish you all a safe and fall-free holiday!

Monday, November 30, 2015

Refresh your Spirit; Enjoy Local Arts

  • Read more here: http://www.newsobserver.com/entertainment/arts-culture/article46054920.html#storylink=cpy

Many people look to December to enjoy rich arts and crafts and the Triangle area does not disappoint. Whether you are looking to be inspired by the creative spirit, or find a unique gift; here are 4 ways you can get out; get refreshed and see something beautiful.
All events are free

Annual Juried Photographic Exhibit

Cary Senior Center in Cary is pleased to hold their
8th Annual Open Juried Photographic Exhibition. caryphotographicartists.org
November 30-December 18, 2015
Monday through Friday, 9:00am to 6:00pm
120 Maury Odell Place
Cary, NC 27513
For more info (919) 469-4081

Annual St. Nicholas European Christmas Market

Saints Cyril and Methodius Byzantine Catholic Church
Fri 12/4/15 at 7pm-9pm 
Sat 12/5/15 at 10am-3pm 
www.facebook.com/saintnicholasmarket
2510 Piney Plains Road
Cary, NC 27511
For more info (919) 851-9266

Holiday and Winter Art Exhibit and Silent Auction

Apex Chamber of Commerce
A very special exhibit of artwork for the winter and holiday seasons. Forms for submitting silent auction bids on the works are available at the site.
November 28 – December 7, 2015
220 N. Salem St. Apex, NC 27502For more info (919) 362-6456

Boylan Heights ArtWalk 


Admire holiday decorations and shop for artwork and handmade crafts as you stroll through historic Boylan Heights.
Meet neighbors on their porches.
Sunday, December 6, 2015
Noon-5pm South Boylan Ave between Hillsborough Street and Western Boulevard, Raleigh, NC
If you need assistance to bring a loved one to these or any holiday events, please give us a call. We can arrange something for a minimum of two hours of care. Office: 919 724-4297

Monday, November 23, 2015

6 Ways to Help a Male Caregiver

Male caregivers? Doesn't most caregiving in a family fall on the women? Aren't they the ones who coordinate care, or provide the day-to-day support for ailing loved ones?

Traditionally, yes, but in a survey reported in the October/November issue of AARP, a full 40% of family caregivers are men. 50% of all family caregivers work full-time. Chances are you know a friend, co-worker, or family member who leads in the hard work of making sure their parent, spouse, or adult child is well-cared for.

But men do not traditionally have a social network of support and tend to labor alone.
Here are 6 ways you can support and encourage a male caregiver.

1. Be a Buddy.

Day-to-day caregiving can isolate even the most well-connected healthy adult. Men particularly are inclined NOT to ask for help or admit to the loneliness. Give that man a call, stop in for a visit, buy him a beer. Support is as important to a man as it is to a woman.

2. Feed Him
  • Yes, bring him a home-cooked meal if you can, but a favorite take-out meal or gift-certificate to a favorite eatery will be welcome as well.
3. Offer to do a Specific Chore.
  • Better yet, just do it. Take his over-due books back to the library. Get his oil changed in his car. Offer to pick up the kids from after-school events. Ignore his insistence that "it isn't necessary."
4. Offer a Break.
  • Come by and offer to stay in the house while he goes and does errands or takes a break, without worrying what will happen when he is gone.
5. Hire a Housekeeping Service
  • Yes, he might want help cleaning the house but might feel embarrassed if someone he knows came in and saw the need. Professional help doesn't judge.
6. Help Celebrate the Holidays.
  • Offer to do a holiday chore that he would like to do but, like everyone, finds difficult in the time-crunched life of a care-giver. Can you put up Christmas lights? Not every man hates to shop; offer to help find, wrap, or send gifts. Hang a fresh wreath on the door.
These are just some ideas to help you acknowledge the man who shoulders the care of his loved ones.
Would love to hear how you support and celebrate those who care.

Saturday, November 14, 2015

Alzheimers Male Caregiver Support Group

Men handle loss and sharing differently from women. Some don't share at all; some don't believe in sharing publicly. Our cultures (both eastern and western) expect men to be strong, figure things out by themselves, "be a rock" as some would say.

Truth is, as human beings (irrespective of gender), we have a tremendous need to have someone to talk to, rather, someone to listen to our story, interspersed with times when we want to be left alone. Depending on the "season of life" that you're in at any given moment, those times and needs vary.

The most important thing is to become aware of your needs, then accept them with kindness to yourself, and finally maybe do something about it.

When you do something for someone else (vs asking what's in it for me), you feel "wealthy"/"rich"; life becomes bigger than your own scarcities & problems; it becomes meaningful.

Mike Caldwell of Alzheimers Association hosts a Male Caregiver Experience Support Group at WakeMed Cary Hospital on the second Friday of each month. He's a veteran, has been a Caregiver for his mother, has experienced loss, and now enjoys being there for others who have and are walking the path of loss.

Remember, loss is not only about death; it can be slowly losing someone you love to Alzherimers or another form of dementia, other sicknesses, losing a spouse through divorce, losing a job, being diagnosed with a major illness yourself, and so on.

Reach out to Mike to learn more, visit one of his sessions, and experience how meaningful it can be to support someone else: 314.304.1635.

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Community Event! Antique Road Extravaganza!

  • After you have walked the

    2015 Walk to fight Alzheimers Benefit, You might want to see if your family heirlooms are worth a bundle of cash or a bundle of nostalgia.(or maybe both)

  • Antique Road Extravaganza!

  • Saturday, Sept 19, 1:00 PM - 4:00 PM
  • Carillon Assisted Living of Knightdale
  • Join Carillon Assisted Living for a nostalgic afternoon. Find out if that prized possession is worth a small fortune to others, or is simply priceless to you. Have your item(s) evaluated by a professional antique appraiser/dealer.

    Advance Tickets are $10 per item to be evaluated; $25 at the door. limit two tickets per person. All proceeds to benefit the Rotary Club of Raleigh Midtown. carillonassistedliving.com 919 266-6676

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Walking the Walk to fight Alzheimers.

2015 Walk to End Alzheimer's - Raleigh/Durham (Triangle), NC

September 19, 2015   Add to calendar
Registration at 9am | Ceremony at 10am | Walk at 10:45am 
Route Length: 2 miles
Durham Bulls Athletic Park   Map it
Raleigh/Durham (Triangle), NC 27701

Our own Leah Woerner,
HR coordinator and caregiver is heading up our team to join many others in the fight to end Alzheimer's Disease. Leah cared for her grandmother in the last stages of this illness and knows first hand the harm it brings to loved ones and their families.  If you would like to support this work, contact her at lwoerner@abc-seniors.com
If you are already attending this event this weekend, please stop by to say hello at the Always Best Care Table, or when you see us on the track. We would love to see you at this great event.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Made you Laugh

Several years ago I heard that the  average four-year-old laughs 300 times a day. The average 40-year-old? Only four. While this statistic has now been relegated to urban legend, it had its’ influence on me. I knew children laughed way more than adults. Current studies suggest that children enjoy 15-20 daily laughs more than adults. I decided I wasn't going through life and only laugh 4 times a day.
Me & my Mum at a Mad Hatter Tea.

As a result of this early intention; I have received compliments on my hearty laughs, (and a few annoyed looks) and I sure enjoy my life more. When I engage in some intentional laughter, it means I have taken myself less seriously, good for the soul.

What exactly does it mean to "intentionally laugh"? Sometimes called Laugh Therapy 
intentional laughing is anything that provides a full-scale workout for your muscles and unleashes a rush of stress-busting endorphins. Since our bodies cannot distinguish between real and fake laughter, anything that makes you giggle will have a positive impact.  You do not need to be happy or even have a sense of humor to benefit from a good laugh. You can  ha, ha, ha, ho, ho, ho like a hearty fake Santa to get some benefit. Best to practice these ho hoes with at least one another person, one of you will giggle and then so will the other.

Norman Cousins famously chronicled the effects of his self-prescribed "laughing cure" in his book Anatomy of an Illness as Perceived by the Patient (W.W. Norton, 1979, 2001, 2005). Cousins, who suffered from inflammatory arthritis, claimed that 10 minutes of hearty guffawing while watching Marx Brothers movies brought him two hours of pain-free sleep.

When we are in the serious business of taking care of someone ill, or experiencing illness ourselves, we often forget to laugh, or even think it is inappropriate. But the best comics know the tragic side of life and choose to make us laugh anyway. Here are some ways our family keeps laughing, even during some truly challenging times.

We dress up kooky just for fun. When my daughter pulls out the Marilyn Monroe wig and puts on the shades, I crack up every single time. I am chuckling now remembering how her young cousin's eyes widened at the transformation.

We tell stories on each other. Stories that may not have been terribly funny while they were happening; like when you realized that the back of your dress was tucked into your waistband and the back of your skirt was actually your slip. Do you have any stories that sound like this?
We act silly.

Finally, we practice Cousins' prescription of watching funny movies and go to events that feed our funny bone. Here is one event coming up locally that is also a benefit supporting mental health services.

Laugh Loud, Sing Proud! is a comedy event which will be at Kings
August 1, 2015 at 8:00PM
14 W. Martin St., Raleigh, NC 27601
Admission: Advance $10-$100
919.833.1091