Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Checklist Fall Prevention: 5 Ways to Stay Safe Inside Your Home.

"Home is where the heart isbut home is also where, according to Health.com 8 million Americans lose their balance and fall. Senior adults are particularly at risk because they may have impaired vision, and a variety of musculoskeletal issues, like bone loss and osteoporosis. No matter your age, nothing interrupts your holiday celebration like a run to the emergency room.

This month, before the snow and ice mean precautions outside, use this checklist to safeguard against falls inside your home.

Check the RX label.
Do your medicines list dizziness as a side effect? Many medicine interactions also may cause lightheadedness. Read the labels, use a drug interaction website and talk to your doctor and pharmacist when you begin another medication. 


Light the stairs.
Good lighting in the home is essential for safe movement but it is especially important at the top and bottom of stairs, where it is easy to miss a step. Consider night-lights or small wall units to light up the dark side of the staircase.

Wear the rubber-soled slipper.
Or socks, or shoes. Bare feet have good traction, but for the cold-feet among us, wear warmth with slip-resistant soles.

Lose the area rugs.
Yes, they are pretty and warm up the home, but the edges tend to curl up and trip us up. If you must have them, make sure they are backed with skid resistant backing. 

Clear the clutter.
In the holiday season we may pile the wrapping, boxes, purchases on the stairs or on the floor; which can quickly mean in the way of walking. Think of the comedic banana peel, only it isn't funny when you are one upended.

We at Always Best Care sincerely wish you all a safe and fall-free holiday!

Monday, November 30, 2015

Refresh your Spirit; Enjoy Local Arts

  • Read more here: http://www.newsobserver.com/entertainment/arts-culture/article46054920.html#storylink=cpy

Many people look to December to enjoy rich arts and crafts and the Triangle area does not disappoint. Whether you are looking to be inspired by the creative spirit, or find a unique gift; here are 4 ways you can get out; get refreshed and see something beautiful.
All events are free

Annual Juried Photographic Exhibit

Cary Senior Center in Cary is pleased to hold their
8th Annual Open Juried Photographic Exhibition. caryphotographicartists.org
November 30-December 18, 2015
Monday through Friday, 9:00am to 6:00pm
120 Maury Odell Place
Cary, NC 27513
For more info (919) 469-4081

Annual St. Nicholas European Christmas Market

Saints Cyril and Methodius Byzantine Catholic Church
Fri 12/4/15 at 7pm-9pm 
Sat 12/5/15 at 10am-3pm 
www.facebook.com/saintnicholasmarket
2510 Piney Plains Road
Cary, NC 27511
For more info (919) 851-9266

Holiday and Winter Art Exhibit and Silent Auction

Apex Chamber of Commerce
A very special exhibit of artwork for the winter and holiday seasons. Forms for submitting silent auction bids on the works are available at the site.
November 28 – December 7, 2015
220 N. Salem St. Apex, NC 27502For more info (919) 362-6456

Boylan Heights ArtWalk 


Admire holiday decorations and shop for artwork and handmade crafts as you stroll through historic Boylan Heights.
Meet neighbors on their porches.
Sunday, December 6, 2015
Noon-5pm South Boylan Ave between Hillsborough Street and Western Boulevard, Raleigh, NC
If you need assistance to bring a loved one to these or any holiday events, please give us a call. We can arrange something for a minimum of two hours of care. Office: 919 724-4297

Monday, November 23, 2015

6 Ways to Help a Male Caregiver

Male caregivers? Doesn't most caregiving in a family fall on the women? Aren't they the ones who coordinate care, or provide the day-to-day support for ailing loved ones?

Traditionally, yes, but in a survey reported in the October/November issue of AARP, a full 40% of family caregivers are men. 50% of all family caregivers work full-time. Chances are you know a friend, co-worker, or family member who leads in the hard work of making sure their parent, spouse, or adult child is well-cared for.

But men do not traditionally have a social network of support and tend to labor alone.
Here are 6 ways you can support and encourage a male caregiver.

1. Be a Buddy.

Day-to-day caregiving can isolate even the most well-connected healthy adult. Men particularly are inclined NOT to ask for help or admit to the loneliness. Give that man a call, stop in for a visit, buy him a beer. Support is as important to a man as it is to a woman.

2. Feed Him
  • Yes, bring him a home-cooked meal if you can, but a favorite take-out meal or gift-certificate to a favorite eatery will be welcome as well.
3. Offer to do a Specific Chore.
  • Better yet, just do it. Take his over-due books back to the library. Get his oil changed in his car. Offer to pick up the kids from after-school events. Ignore his insistence that "it isn't necessary."
4. Offer a Break.
  • Come by and offer to stay in the house while he goes and does errands or takes a break, without worrying what will happen when he is gone.
5. Hire a Housekeeping Service
  • Yes, he might want help cleaning the house but might feel embarrassed if someone he knows came in and saw the need. Professional help doesn't judge.
6. Help Celebrate the Holidays.
  • Offer to do a holiday chore that he would like to do but, like everyone, finds difficult in the time-crunched life of a care-giver. Can you put up Christmas lights? Not every man hates to shop; offer to help find, wrap, or send gifts. Hang a fresh wreath on the door.
These are just some ideas to help you acknowledge the man who shoulders the care of his loved ones.
Would love to hear how you support and celebrate those who care.

Saturday, November 14, 2015

Alzheimers Male Caregiver Support Group

Men handle loss and sharing differently from women. Some don't share at all; some don't believe in sharing publicly. Our cultures (both eastern and western) expect men to be strong, figure things out by themselves, "be a rock" as some would say.

Truth is, as human beings (irrespective of gender), we have a tremendous need to have someone to talk to, rather, someone to listen to our story, interspersed with times when we want to be left alone. Depending on the "season of life" that you're in at any given moment, those times and needs vary.

The most important thing is to become aware of your needs, then accept them with kindness to yourself, and finally maybe do something about it.

When you do something for someone else (vs asking what's in it for me), you feel "wealthy"/"rich"; life becomes bigger than your own scarcities & problems; it becomes meaningful.

Mike Caldwell of Alzheimers Association hosts a Male Caregiver Experience Support Group at WakeMed Cary Hospital on the second Friday of each month. He's a veteran, has been a Caregiver for his mother, has experienced loss, and now enjoys being there for others who have and are walking the path of loss.

Remember, loss is not only about death; it can be slowly losing someone you love to Alzherimers or another form of dementia, other sicknesses, losing a spouse through divorce, losing a job, being diagnosed with a major illness yourself, and so on.

Reach out to Mike to learn more, visit one of his sessions, and experience how meaningful it can be to support someone else: 314.304.1635.

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Community Event! Antique Road Extravaganza!

  • After you have walked the

    2015 Walk to fight Alzheimers Benefit, You might want to see if your family heirlooms are worth a bundle of cash or a bundle of nostalgia.(or maybe both)

  • Antique Road Extravaganza!

  • Saturday, Sept 19, 1:00 PM - 4:00 PM
  • Carillon Assisted Living of Knightdale
  • Join Carillon Assisted Living for a nostalgic afternoon. Find out if that prized possession is worth a small fortune to others, or is simply priceless to you. Have your item(s) evaluated by a professional antique appraiser/dealer.

    Advance Tickets are $10 per item to be evaluated; $25 at the door. limit two tickets per person. All proceeds to benefit the Rotary Club of Raleigh Midtown. carillonassistedliving.com 919 266-6676

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Walking the Walk to fight Alzheimers.

2015 Walk to End Alzheimer's - Raleigh/Durham (Triangle), NC

September 19, 2015   Add to calendar
Registration at 9am | Ceremony at 10am | Walk at 10:45am 
Route Length: 2 miles
Durham Bulls Athletic Park   Map it
Raleigh/Durham (Triangle), NC 27701

Our own Leah Woerner,
HR coordinator and caregiver is heading up our team to join many others in the fight to end Alzheimer's Disease. Leah cared for her grandmother in the last stages of this illness and knows first hand the harm it brings to loved ones and their families.  If you would like to support this work, contact her at lwoerner@abc-seniors.com
If you are already attending this event this weekend, please stop by to say hello at the Always Best Care Table, or when you see us on the track. We would love to see you at this great event.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Made you Laugh

Several years ago I heard that the  average four-year-old laughs 300 times a day. The average 40-year-old? Only four. While this statistic has now been relegated to urban legend, it had its’ influence on me. I knew children laughed way more than adults. Current studies suggest that children enjoy 15-20 daily laughs more than adults. I decided I wasn't going through life and only laugh 4 times a day.
Me & my Mum at a Mad Hatter Tea.

As a result of this early intention; I have received compliments on my hearty laughs, (and a few annoyed looks) and I sure enjoy my life more. When I engage in some intentional laughter, it means I have taken myself less seriously, good for the soul.

What exactly does it mean to "intentionally laugh"? Sometimes called Laugh Therapy 
intentional laughing is anything that provides a full-scale workout for your muscles and unleashes a rush of stress-busting endorphins. Since our bodies cannot distinguish between real and fake laughter, anything that makes you giggle will have a positive impact.  You do not need to be happy or even have a sense of humor to benefit from a good laugh. You can  ha, ha, ha, ho, ho, ho like a hearty fake Santa to get some benefit. Best to practice these ho hoes with at least one another person, one of you will giggle and then so will the other.

Norman Cousins famously chronicled the effects of his self-prescribed "laughing cure" in his book Anatomy of an Illness as Perceived by the Patient (W.W. Norton, 1979, 2001, 2005). Cousins, who suffered from inflammatory arthritis, claimed that 10 minutes of hearty guffawing while watching Marx Brothers movies brought him two hours of pain-free sleep.

When we are in the serious business of taking care of someone ill, or experiencing illness ourselves, we often forget to laugh, or even think it is inappropriate. But the best comics know the tragic side of life and choose to make us laugh anyway. Here are some ways our family keeps laughing, even during some truly challenging times.

We dress up kooky just for fun. When my daughter pulls out the Marilyn Monroe wig and puts on the shades, I crack up every single time. I am chuckling now remembering how her young cousin's eyes widened at the transformation.

We tell stories on each other. Stories that may not have been terribly funny while they were happening; like when you realized that the back of your dress was tucked into your waistband and the back of your skirt was actually your slip. Do you have any stories that sound like this?
We act silly.

Finally, we practice Cousins' prescription of watching funny movies and go to events that feed our funny bone. Here is one event coming up locally that is also a benefit supporting mental health services.

Laugh Loud, Sing Proud! is a comedy event which will be at Kings
August 1, 2015 at 8:00PM
14 W. Martin St., Raleigh, NC 27601
Admission: Advance $10-$100
919.833.1091


Sunday, July 5, 2015

Stars & Charts and Activity Aprons

Did your elementary school teacher put a sticker on your papers when you had done a particularly good job? Was there a classroom chart which featured stars to record progress? Do you own a Little League award, a sports jersey, a framed commendation from work?

From childhood through adulthood we are hard-wired to respond to physical demonstrations of appreciation and praise; the more personal and sometimes conspicuous the better. Ponder the array of award shows on air today.

Motivational styles vary, but it is a rare person who does not appreciate a physical expression of recognition for work well-done.

How does one chart progress, growth, or accomplishment when caring for someone whose abilities are in decline?

You have to unwind the chart mentality. By this I don't mean resigning yourself to going backwards. I mean intentionally sitting with the star of a present moment to celebrate a present day victory.

Recently a caregiver and her family introduced the use of an activity or sensory apron. Activity aprons are garments made with sensory tasks sewn on; zippers, buttons, textured materials, pockets. They are designed to reduce agitation in person suffering from Alzheimer's or other forms of dementia.

When this particular client had the apron placed upon her lap, she immediately became engaged in the tasks provided. She quieted and then became receptive to other directions. She ultimately allowed her caregiver to give her a bath, something she had been actively resisting for some time. I know we are disinclined to celebrate giving someone a bath. But for this family and their caregiver, this was a star moment. Shiny for the day. I've observed that caregiving brings joy to those who can collect those stars of mostly unobserved victories, and place them not on a chart, but in their hearts.

Activity Aprons can be bought or made. Sew Fishsticks shows you how to make a pretty one and Pinterest has various examples of activity pillows and lap blankets that serve the same purpose. Amazon features a few companies that sell them.

I would love to hear about your star moments.

Thursday, June 25, 2015

Tell your story and laugh

In the second month of my new job as activities assistant and art teacher in a nursing home; I was arranging materials and tools on a long table. Directly in front of me, on the other side was an articulate and chatty gentleman who I knew had been the CEO of a large corporation. We discussed a current event while I prepared for the craft class.

I turned around to speak to someone and when I turned back I saw Mr. CEO using the scissors that I had placed in front of me to cut the pants he was wearing right along the thigh, slightly above the knee. Horrified, I hustled around the table and said "maybe that isn't a good idea, may I have the scissors back?". He cheerfully returned the scissors. As I returned to my spot at the table, I wondered how was I going to explain how Mr. CEO came to cut his pants. Then I glanced over to see he was now in the process of tearing his pants up to his crotch. A beautifully tailored pair of pants had just become an accessory to a strange strip-show. I put up my materials and suggested that we take a return ride to his room. He cheerfully agreed.

We exit the activity room, turn the corner, and greet the Administrator who arches her eyebrows in a question mark fashion.  "Mr. CEO was using scissors to cut his pants, I explained, but we have decided not to use scissors anymore." "An excellent idea," she dryly observes and continues on while I wonder if this is my last day on the job.

Later I spoke to the gentleman's wife who simply laughed. "I asked him what he was doing and he said he was making cut-off shorts because it was so hot!"

I've told this story on myself many times because it illustrates how fast behaviors can change with someone suffering with dementia. Mostly though it reminds me that a sense of humor saves your life as a caregiver. Surprise behaviors can derail your day if you lose your ability to laugh. A caregiver recently told me how she jokes and teases her client into laughing and mid-smile puts medicine on her tongue. Mission accomplished without the combative contest of wills.
Twilight Zone meets Buster Keaton when you care for someone suffering from dementia. On the days the front wall of your storefront falls down (Steamboat Bill, Jr. (1928); maybe it's best to stand in the ruins and laugh.

Nearly everyone who has worked with others with chronic illness has a story of how sad intersects the hilarious. What's yours?

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

5 Ways to help the caregiver.

Photographer unknown Collection of National Media Museum.
"One of the benefits of having help is that Mom has been able to read again", a client recently informed me. "Mom" is the primary caregiver of her husband who suffers from long-standing ill health. Her children have lovingly come around her to support her, gently insisting she take care of herself as well as her husband. Because she has accepted help, she has time to return to her life-long pleasure of reading.

So much has been written about the importance of taking care of yourself while care-giving that I hesitate to address the subject. When you take care of someone chronically ill, it is dangerously easy to ignore your basic needs. Easy because the task of marshaling resources during a lengthy illness eclipses your normal awareness of physical and emotional needs. This is a reality I have personally observed and experienced. A disregard for self-care can lead to a decline in your mental and physical health.

Here are 5 questions I have learned from others long practiced in the art of caring for others.

Are you sleeping? 
"Are you kidding? Of course not!" one friend exclaimed when I asked. Taking care of someone ill may remind you of taking care of a newborn. Your loved one moans, gets up often, wanders around the house, or stays up late then sleeps in. You awaken with tension or anxiety. If you need convincing that chronic sleeplessness can seriously harm you, Web Med lists 10 reasons how poor quality rest leads to accidents, depression, and seriously impairs decision making. Brainstorm strategies to recover from inevitable sleeplessness; get professional help, take naps, sleep in another room, arrange to spend the night with a friend or other family member.

Are you eating?
I was waiting in the hospital while my husband underwent major surgery when a good friend called and said "can we come over with dinner?" They brought in an amazing picnic dinner, cold fried chicken, fresh berry pie, homemade pickles and we ate together. I remember this kindness partly because I realized I had hardly eaten in 3 days. Paying attention to when and what you are eating is crucial to maintaining health in the long-haul of caregiving.

Are you breathing?
She burst out laughing when I asked a client this question, "last I looked, I’m still living." Yes, the shallow breathing we do normally, especially under stress keeps us alive but sometimes just barely. When you breathe deeply, the air comes in through your nose fully, fills your lungs, and you will notice that your lower belly rises. The ability to breathe deeply allows you to tap into one of your body’s strongest self-healing mechanisms. It is foundational to many meditative disciplines. Take a deep breath and ask yourself; Am I breathing?

Are you getting out?
Normally I would disqualify a medication run to the drug store as getting out however I know
someone who gives herself a small treat each time she picks up drugs; nail polish, seasonal items, a magazine. She has transformed a frequent task into an outing for herself. Getting out doesn't have to cost money.  Any pleasure that takes you away from your daily stress such as going outside to read will work. Finding ways to have pleasurable outings reduces stress, fights depression and in the end makes you a more effective caregiver.

Are you being honest?
You can't honestly relay the state of affairs to everyone, but being able to honestly express your needs and emotions to someone is critical to staying emotionally and physically strong. Who is your support? Do you need to join a support group, see a professional counselor, or simply tap into your existing network of friends and family? Are you honest with yourself? Try examining your emotional landscape a little bit each day so you can acknowledge the sadness, the loss, the anger and yes, the joy that caregiving brings.

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Technology for Seniors, on the Ray Lucia Show

Grateful to get an opportunity to be on live radio yesterday on The Ray Lucia Show (Easier to listen on iTunes: Hour 1 on 2-June, at approx 31.30 minute mark in this podcast). Wasn't nervous as such, but certainly gulped a few times at various points :) Listening to it after the fact, there is so much more I could have shared, but...

The Ray Lucia Show - 2-June, Hour 1; 31.30min mark

Saturday, May 30, 2015

AlzNC 2015 JOCO Walk - Clayton Square

We were at the AlzNC 2015 Johnston County walk in downtown Clayton today. Dawn Rozzo, our Client Liaison answered questions at the Always Best Care table, and explained what we do, and most important why.

What a fantastic turnout; Gabriel Manor and the Brian Center did most of the heavy lifting to make it happen, along with contributions from multiple others. Pete Perrino and Sarah Middendorf were the chairs of the committee for the walk. Sarah has been doing a fantastic job keeping everyone's energy up, and also did an awesome job running the event today!!!

Here are a few highlights:

ROTC flag bearers

Selma Mayor speaking at the event, highlighted hope and the continued commitment to research to fight this terrible disease afflicting millions...

The Zumba Lady was so much fun; she really did get us moving to the beat, and easily...


Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Memorial Day Celebration at Cambridge Village of Apex

It was an honor to hear WW-II veteran Jack M share his uplifting experience on Omaha Beach. What an emotional and humbling experience to see and hear from a WW-II veteran first hand.

Cats; possibly the best senior choice


One of my many unapologetic pleasures is lying in a rope hammock in my backyard. Strung between the cherry tree that doesn't bear fruit and a large Leland cypress, I am hidden from the neighbors but still have perfect view of cobalt blue and billow-white clouds.  A twenty minute break in its gentle sway never fails to alter the attitude positively.

Lately my black tiger-stripe, Cosmo has decided to join me. He stretches his front paws onto the rope's edge and I lean to the side to give him a better vantage. He then jumps up and comically stumbles onto my lap. Sometimes he hangs his head over the edge and stares at flying insects, sometimes he stretches out tummy to my tummy side and gently head-butts my hand. Pet me please. His presence gilds an already near-perfect past time.

For two years, I brought an exceptionally social cat for pet visits once a month at a long term care facility where I worked. While dog visits are common people rarely bring in a cat, because cats are rarely as accommodating. But Kazoo would lie quiet next to bed-ridden residents or patiently sit on a table and let people pet and admire. Even cat-averse staff marveled at how he placated some residents.

Much has been studied and written about the health and healing advantages of having a pet, especially a dog. But the American Humane society recommends considering a cat for older owners. Many seniors simply can’t keep up with a dog’s needs, which makes adopting a cat a much better choice. Here are some of their pointers:

  • Unlike dogs, cats are happy staying indoors all the time. 
  • Most adult cats require only 20 to 30 minutes of playtime per day, and interactive play does not require the owner to be mobile. A kitty fishing pole or laser toy lets senior cat owners engage their cat in play while sitting in their favorite chair. 
  • Cats are also very content to spend most of their time sleeping on their owner’s lap or bed. 
  • If you are adopting a cat, consider an older one which is less likely to disturb the household.
Of course, cats are not care-free. They must be fed and kitty-litter box emptied. If these tasks are too burdensome for your elderly loved one, perhaps family members could consider a cat-share arrangement, where a pet cat stays with the senior during the day and comes home to another residence in the evening. If you are visiting daily, or even every third day, filling up the food dispenser and checking the litter box are small tasks compared to the companionship afforded by a purring cat.

If you are a cat-lover you know how much your cat entertains, amuses and comforts.

If you are not a cat-lover, but know a senior in your life who could use some mood-lifting affection, consider adopting a feline friend.  

Monday, May 18, 2015

Always Best Care Senior Services; a family of giving care



ABC Raleigh's President and Operations Supervisor, Sanjay Das started Always Best Care to provide the kind of loving, compassionate care that his own Mother provides for his grandmother. The agency opened its doors in February 2014. He and his wife moved to the Triangle in 2011 from the Boston area and love this area. In this article he explains what motivates his approach to providing superior care to senior adults.

Sanjay, can you talk about how your family's caregiving influenced you to start Always Best Care?



This business is a tribute to my maternal Grandmother who raised me; my second Mom. She brought together a community of women in India and helped them learn and train each other in the art of hand-crafted articles & clothes. She began this enterprise in her forties, and continued until she was in her 70s. I experienced it all first hand but didn't realize the tremendous impact she had on our community until I was an adult. As she grew older, I hired someone to run errands for her and others since we live so far away and they needed help. Their needs progressed over the past 10 years; now my Mother cares for my Grand-mom who has 24x7 care. My Father-in-law had live-in care, and my Father lived in a family care home towards the end of his life. Providing senior care is my way to continue my Grand-mom's legacy, and do something meaningful.

What aspects of being an IT professional help you in your current work?
I enjoy solving problems; finding the best solution for each senior and family. Each situation has unique needs; matching that up with each of our caregiver's strengths is what I enjoy.

What complex problem have you solved recently?
One client we helped recently had very specific cognitive, but not physical needs. Even though we started with independent living, we realized switching to a good assisted living community would be a better solution. We needed to find a community appropriate for someone with unique mental but not physical limitations. This challenge required me to expand my search criteria to look for an assisted living community that has safe, excellent independent resources and services around the community (not just within the community itself).We achieved the results we needed working hand in hand with the family and the facility community. It's a wonderful gift when that happens.

What new skills do you have to learn/practice?
I've had to learn many new things! I work with clients and caregivers, (who are the core of our agency), manage financials, sales, marketing. I am most motivated to build relationships that matter, and am continually learning how to improve quality of life for our clients.

You say you are "passionate about nature". What activities do you do to be outside or to embrace Nature?    I'm a hiker at heart, and enjoy running, gardening; anything outdoors really.

Working in the health-care industry requires a mindful attention to your own health. What are some of your own healthy habits?
I follow an amazingly powerful book: The 3 Season Diet, by John Douillard. I've applied John's approach to a seasonal diet and healthy living (based on an ancient Asian way of life called Ayurveda), enhanced with raw foods, no sugar, and jogging. That combined with deep breathing and meditation keeps me going, without any coffee.

Tell me about one aspect of running Always Best Care that gives you joy.
Nearly everything around running this agency is a lot of fun (even if tons of hard work). I thoroughly enjoy my interactions with people, whether they are our team members, clients, referral sources or partners.

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Help Finding a Senior Community

A loved one has been in your care for several weeks, months or years but something has changed. Perhaps he has become more ill, you have acquired more responsibilities outside the home, or there has been multiple falls and increased disorientation.

Whatever the reason, you begin to know that you need to look into different living arrangements. There are over 100 communities which serve Senior adults in the extended Raleigh, Durham, and Chapel Hill triangle area. Which are the best communities for your loved one? The "best" community is one that meets your loved one’s unique requirements which include amount of care needed, health status, proximity to family members, and financial resources.

Let’s take a look at what kind senior living options are available.

Independent Living
People who can function independently and but desire to reduce/eliminate home maintenance activities and chores look into independent living options. These include
deeded homes, senior living apartments or independent living communities. They may or may not include amenities such as transportation assistance and planned activities.

Assisted Living
If you need help with activities of daily living, you will be looking into assisted living facilities. These will provide help with meals, bathing, dressing, housekeeping. Shared or private rooms are available. Cost will depend on type of room and level of care. Most also provide planned activities for their residents. Optional services often available are hair salon, therapy, massage or one-on-one care.


Alzheimer's & Dementia Care
For those suffering from Alzheimer's or other types of dementia or memory loss, an
assisted living arrangement will be needed; but the shared or private room is in a "secured" or memory unit community. These units provide higher level of care and security with meals, bathing, dressing, and mentally stimulating activities. Cost depends on type of room and potential level of care.

Residential Care Homes
Similar to assisted living, except you live in a private house (typically in a sub division) converted for shared use. Homes vary in services provided and typically house three to eight residents. There are approximately 25 residential care homes in Raleigh alone.

Skilled Nursing Care
Long term nursing homes provide assistance in activities of daily living and access to 24/7 nursing care. Facilities are structured like a hospital as opposed to a home with on-site physicians and physical therapy. Additional services may be available like hair salon and various types of activities.

Continuing Care Retirement Community
A senior community for those who wish to remain in the same community as their health care needs change with age. These places provide housing transitions from independent living all the way to skilled nursing, if required. All housing is typically in same community, so seniors remain in familiar surroundings with access to multiple services. Requires long term contract or "buy-in" to locate within the community.

Respite Care
Facility care given to a resident to provide short term relief (or during vacation) for primary caregivers. Shared or private room in assisted living or memory care, or nursing home communities. Your stay can be for a couple of days, a week, a month or more.
Cost depends on type of room and level of care.

Does reading all these options overwhelm? How do you find these facilities and know if they are a good fit for your loved one? You can always research using the internet, yellow pages and/or word of mouth. All that requires time, patience and navigating unfamiliar information which may be conflicting. You can also use a paid finder service, which charges you or your loved one for their information.

Always Best Care provides FREE to-you personalized finder services. ABC Care Coordinators meet with you in person to gain understanding of your needs in detail. We utilize information from our private database and knowledge of local resources to set up tours of facilities. We accompany you on your tours to help you ask questions and best decide what meets your loved ones' needs. Always Best Care welcomes your calls to help your family in the challenge of caring for an elder loved one. (919) 724-4297